The Mental Health Issues of the Sri Lankan War Widows
Posted on September 28th, 2015

Dr Ruwan M Jayatunge  

If men were the principle casualties of the War, these widows represent its collateral damage –Ed Payne: Collateral Damage

One harsh reality of the war is that the every soldier killed in war leaves behind grieving relatives. It has been a reality since the Trojan War. The women who were left widows as a result of the Sri Lankan conflict are facing radically altered circumstances.

There are estimated thousands of War widows and war-affected family members from the Tri Forces who still experience grief reactions. Many widows are in young age group and with the death of their husbands; these women have become a psychologically and socially vulnerable group. Most of the women who underwent severe emotional pain still have not completely recovered. Many have become the victims of pathological grief. They are unable to work through their grief despite the passage of time. With the widowhood, they experience identity change, role adjustment and change in social status.

Loss of a spouse is one of the most serious threats to health, well-being, and productivity that most people encounter during their lives (Stroebe et al., 2001). Most of the widows undergo acute psychological stress such as bereavement. Bereavement remains uniquely personal for them and causes a broad range of reactions. Bereavement is the reaction to the loss of a close relationship. Bereavement is defined as a state of sadness or loneliness. Sometimes these reactions are prolonged and affect the women who have lost their husbands. They find it difficult to coping with loss. As indicated by Dowdney (2000) traumatic bereavement can lead to the development of post traumatic stress disorder and depression.

Many researches concur that the mental trauma of the war widows can last for long years. War-related widowhood combined with lone motherhood constitutes a significant factor for elevated psychopathology (Morina et al., 2012).Morina (2011) reported that a decade after the war in Kosovo some of the widowed survivors of war were found with prolonged grief, depression, and posttraumatic stress.  

The higher levels of stress and mental illness are prevailing among war widows. Widowhood was associated with elevated anxiety among those who were highly dependent on their spouses (Carr et al., 2000). The war widows carry extra burden than the average women in the Sri Lankan society. Apart from their traumatic experience, daily stressors such as poverty, family conflict, health problems, unemployment, social isolation and harassments exert a significant effect on their stress levels. Some widows take care not only of their own children but often of their extended family as well.

Widowhood is included as a stressful life experience and associated with stigma, victimization, vulnerability and major life disruption. Losing their husbands are at a higher risk of developing symptoms of chronic depression.  Depressive reactions are common among the Sri Lanka war widows. In 2005, 86 Sri Lankan war widows were clinically interviewed based on Beck’s depression scale and depression was diagnosed in 23. Ten war widows said that they had contemplated suicide after they lost their husbands (Jayatunge, 2013).

The war widows of the other conflictive areas in the globe are facing similar consequences. The conflict in Iraq had recorded high numbers of war widows. The Iraqi war has made widows of an estimated 740,000 women and left many others fatherless (Olga Ghazaryan, Oxfam’s regional director for the Middle East) After 1991, many Iraqi war widows became sole wage earners, often going hungry to feed their children; possibly 60% suffered from psychological problems, with physical manifestations such as weight loss and difficulty breast-feeding (Hoskins, 1997).

Death of a close family member is a highly stressful event. According to Homes and Rahie stress scale the loss of a family member carries the highest stress level. In the psychological context, a traumatic experience like sudden death of a relative can cause long lasting negative effects. In the conservative Asian societies, widows face social, economic and legal handicaps.

Widow as its name denotes associated with some form of socio-cultural stigma and humiliation. They are considered as bad omen in many Sri Lankan rural areas. They are marginalized by their own communities. These factors affect their self-esteem. In some events, the accusations were made by the in laws stating that the husband’s death occurred because of the unluckiness of the wife and they are partially answerable for the husband’s death.

They experience lack of social support and loss of their social possession in their own family circles. The war widows face a number of mental health problems. They have suffered bereavement as a result of the violent deaths of their husbands and these traumatic memories hound them for long years. They are often subjected to extreme forms of discrimination and physical, sexual, and mental abuse. Therefore, widowhood represents a form of “social death” for these women. Their plight and vulnerability lead to numerous psychological ailments.   Many of the widows carry the memories of their late husbands. They are emotionally troubled by the loss and grief.

Spousal bereavement often leads to Prolonged Grief Disorder (PGD).  Prolonged grief disorder (PGD) is a potentially disabling condition that affects approximately 10% of bereaved people. (Bryant et al., 2014). PGD to be distinct from depression and anxiety and to be predictive of reduced quality of life and mental health (Boelen  et al.,2007).  According to Horowitz (1997) core symptoms of complicated grief are intrusive-preoccupation, denial-avoidance, and failure-to-adapt—the last containing enduring feelings of loneliness or emptiness and difficulties with new intimacy.

In the overall view the large percentage of Sri Lankan War Widows are having following psychological features.

  • intrusive memories about their dead husbands
  • fear and uncertainty about the future
  • self pity
  • low self esteem
  • sleep disturbances
  • irritability
  • displacement of anger
  • emotional numbing
  • feelings of guilt for being happy
  • Psycho physiological reactions such as persistent headaches, backaches, without any medical basis and these symptoms do not respond to painkillers.

Many Sri Lankan widows have a tendency to experience and communicate psychological distress in the form of physical symptoms. Some have multiple unexplained somatic symptoms. Most often, the complaints involve chronic pain and problems with the digestive system, nervous system, and reproductive system. These young war widows who have suppressed their biological needs following the cultural pressure and family honor often- experience conversion (dissociative) reactions.

People who experience severe symptoms of separation distress also tend to suffer from certain symptoms of traumatic distress. Psychiatric comorbidity or the presence of multiple disorders is common following bereavement.

The violence of war does not end with the return to peace for those living closest to former combatants. Following is the experience of a war widow whose husband died in the operation Jayasikuru in 1997.

When I heard the death of my husband, my entire world collapsed. He was a Lance corporal in the Army and we were living in his house with his mother and two unmarried sisters. I still have a fragmented memory of the funeral. My mind preoccupied with the events of my husband’s funeral. I have the mental pictures of the coffin, his dead body, ceremonial uniform, and many more things. I often recall these miserable events.  

After several months, my mother in law and husband’s two sisters started passing negative comments. They blamed me for his death. They implied that I was unlucky and since I came to their house, the things changed negatively. Even the neighbors avoided me. 

I had to go to Panagoda the Army pay and pension branch to get my dead husbands’ pension. They said that he was a volunteer and it would take some time and gave me papers to fill up. I had no idea how to do the paper work. I asked my cousin brother to help me. The day I went to his house with the daughter to get the paper work done my mother in law came up with false accusations and blamed me for seeing men soon after the husband’s death. She humiliated me and demanded the full pension of my husband saying that I have no financial rights.   

I had no place to go and my parents died when I was small. My relative had no financial ability to look after me and my daughter. Therefore, I had no other option living with the husband’s relatives facing humiliations every day. When I received my husband’s pension, my mother in law took it. We were given only food. 

Every month I had to go to the Grama Niladari to confirm that I am still a widow and not remarried. When I went to get the document signed he used to pass inappropriate jocks and once tried to touch my hand. I scolded him and left the office. Ever since, he delayed signing my papers.   

I became depressed and when the daughter went to sleep, I cried alone. If not for her, I would have committed suicide ending this suffering.  Constantly I have fear feelings and uncertainty of future. My memory started fading and I could not concentrate. Gradually I have become a living dead………….

Mrs AT87 had been married only for seven months when her husband became MIA (missing in action). This is her story.  ……..When my husband went missing in action, I was 30 years old. We had been married for seven months. As a young widow, I had to face the challenges of life. I waited for him many years but he did not return. Every day was a painful anticipatory day for me. I went to many army camps, to the ICRC and even went to the North during the ceasefire era in search of my husband. There was no news about him. My relatives urged me to marry again but I refused. I still cannot believe that he is dead. I hope one day he would come back………

Mrs. HK34 faced severe hardships with the death of her husband who was a full corporal in the Army. She was driven out from the husband’s family accusing that she was unlucky. She was living in a small house with her four years old son. Her neighbor – a middle-aged man tried to help her with different motives in his mind. When his intentions were reveled Mrs. HK34 did not speak to him and avoided him. Then he started spreading malicious rumors about her in the village. The villagers especially the women humiliated her publicly. Some nights stones were thrown at her house. As Mrs. HK34 believed, her neighbor was behind all these mock incidents. When the troubles intensified, she decided to leave the village but she had no place to go.

Women are considered special groups who are uniquely vulnerable in the context of war exposures (Badri et al., 2013). Individuals, families and communities in Northern Sri Lanka have undergone three decades of war trauma, multiple displacements, and loss of family, kin, friends, homes, employment and other valued resources (Somasundaram & Sivayokan, 2013). The conflict in Sri Lanka has generated a large number of war widows in the North and East. Widows in the North and East province totaled 49 612 in March 2002, and female-headed households numbered 19787 in the five NEP districts in 2000. (Sri Lanka NEP, 2003). Many women are living in abject poverty and despair. The war situation has created a collective trauma in northern Sri Lanka (Somasundaram, 2007). 

Many women may in war be faced with the main responsibility for care giving in the family, with the destiny of their husbands unknown and new and unfamiliar duties placed on them. If the household is facing disaster, this may overload women’s capacity to cope; as preoccupation with the needs of the family may lead to that they are not able to consider their own needs, especially if they become widows (Kastrup, 2006).

The late Air Chief Marshall Harry Goonetilleke conducted a valuable psychosocial assisting project for the war widows of Sri Lanka under the Ranaviru Family Counselling Association. This project helped the war widows to reconstruct their lives and gain confidence. He believed that there should be a permanent rehabilitation policy for the war widows at the national-level. Until his death in 2008, Air Chief Marshall Harry Goonetilleke actively engaged in the rehabilitation work of the Sri Lankan war widows.

Mrs. KL342 was able to face her destiny with courage and determination after her husband’s premature death that occurred during the Eelam war.

 …………. When I heard the terrible news of my husband’s death in the war front, I was utterly devastated. For many months, I was in a denial stage and could not believe that he would never come back. Somehow, I had to gather strength for the sake of my two little children. I knew that being a widow in a deeply conservative society is not easy. But I had no alternative and with courage I faced the consequences. 

Ranaviru Family Counselling Association offered me strength and guidance. At the meetings, I saw women like me who were struggling to survive. I did learn new skills and started to work in an income-generating project. While working and attending my children’s work my emotional trauma reduced. But the deep sorrow was always with me. I had to be the sole breadwinner of the family; I had to be responsible for my children. I was determined to live a life with dignity. 

During the cease-fire in 2002, a group of war widows from the North visited us. Their husbands were LTTE carders who died in the battle. When I saw them, I had angry feelings. I thought for a while probably one of the husbands of these women had killed my husband. My heart stated beating rapidly. I saw they were looking at us. Simultaneously I thought they would be having the same feelings about us. That moment I realized that anger and hatred offer nothing but destruction. My anger dropped to the zero level.

We welcomed them- the women from the opposite side but who share the same grief as us. We all are victims of the war no matter of racial differences. After all our teats and suffering had no ethnic difference. We spoke with these women and exchanged ideas. Soon we became friends. We cried together for the memories of our dead husbands who left us so unexpectedly. At the end of the day, we parted like sisters. Some of these women still write to me and we are good friends……. 

Mrs. GF54 lost her sense of purpose in life when she underwent a pathological grief reaction following her husband’s death in 2001 during the Operation ‘Agni Kheela’. She was extremely focused on the loss and reminders of her husband, problems accepting the death, preoccupation with sorrow, inability to enjoy and moving on with life, trouble carrying out normal routines, withdrawing from social activities. She was treated with medication and EMDR, which gave optimum results. Today Mrs. GF54 is rationally facing her life. She is self employed and building a house for her and for the children.

Professor Rachel Tribe and Padmal De Silva (Senior Lecturer in Psychology at the Institute of Psychiatry, University of London) in their research paper – Psychological intervention with displaced widows in Sri Lanka highlight the importance of integrating coping strategies self-help principles changing perceptions, attitudes and stereotyped beliefs when improving mental health issues of the Sri Lankan women who widowed following extreme traumatic events. As they recommend the cultural and socio-political issues should be taken in to consideration.

The mental health interventions of the war widows should be followed with the specific cultural contexts and not contradicting religious believers of the victims. The war widows need strength-based psychosocial interventions. Welfare and rehabilitation of widows are essential with teaching coping strategies, facilitating education and job training for the socially shunned widows. The measures are needed to help women to transform their new skills into financial independence and sustainability and strengthen women’s existing skills and to introduce new skills in traditional and non-traditional fields.

There must be a permanent rehabilitation policy for the war widows at the national-level that helps widows to build a new life regain confidence and gently adjust to a new life. The children of these war widows should have a secure and dignified future as their fathers always expected. It is the duty of the Nation to repay their dues to these families who have become the invisible victims of the Eelam war.

References

Badri, A., Crutzen, R., Eltayeb, S., & Van den Borne, H.W. (2013). Promoting Darfuri women’s psychosocial health: developing a war-trauma counsellor training program tailored to the person. The EPMA Journal, 4, 10.

Boelen, P.A , Prigerson HG.(2007). The influence of symptoms of prolonged grief disorder, depression, and anxiety on quality of life among bereaved adults: a prospective study.Eur Arch Psychiatry Clin Neurosci.  ;257(8):444-52.

Bryant, R.A., Kenny, L. , Joscelyne, A. , Rawson, N. , Maccallum, F. , Cahill, C. , Hopwood, S. , Aderka, I.,  Nickerson, A . (2014). Treating prolonged grief disorder: a randomized clinical trial. JAMA Psychiatry.  1;71(12):1332-9.

Carr, D , House, J.S., Kessler, R.C., Nesse, R.M., Sonnega, J., Wortman, C.(2000).Marital quality and psychological adjustment to widowhood among older adults: a longitudinal analysis.J Gerontol B Psychol Sci Soc Sci. ;55(4):S197-207.

Dowdney. L.(2000). Childhood Bereavement.J Child Psychol Psychiatry. 41(7):819-30.

Horowitz, M..J., Siegel B., Holen A., Bonanno G.A., Milbrath C., Stinson C.H. Diagnostic criteria for complicated grief disorder. Am J Psychiatry. 1997;154:904–910

Hoskins, E. (1997) Public health and the Persian Gulf WarIn B. Levy and V. Sidel (eds.) War and Public Health. New York: Oxford University Press

Jayatunge, R. M. (2013). Shell Shock to Palali Syndrome. Sarasavi Publishers Colombo.

Kastrup, M.C. (2006).Mental health consequences of war: gender specific issues. World Psychiatry. 5(1):33-4.

Morina, N. (2011).Rumination and avoidance as predictors of prolonged grief, depression, and posttraumatic stress in female widowed survivors of war.J Nerv Ment Dis.  ;199(12):921-7.

Morina, N. , Emmelkamp, P.M.(2012).Mental health outcomes of widowed and married mothers after war.Br J Psychiatry.  ;200(2):158-9.

Somasundaram, D.(2007).Collective trauma in northern Sri Lanka: a qualitative psychosocial-ecological study.Int J Ment Health Syst.  4;1(1):5.

Somasundaram, D. , Sivayokan S.(2013).Rebuilding community resilience in a post-war context: developing insight and recommendations – a qualitative study in Northern Sri Lanka.Int J Ment Health Syst. 11;7(1):3.

Stroebe, M.,   Hansson,R.O.,   Stroebe,W.,    Schut, H. (2001).  Handbook of bereavement research: Consequences,coping, and care. Washington, DC: American Psychological Association.

Leave a Reply

You must be logged in to post a comment.

 

 


Copyright © 2018 LankaWeb.com. All Rights Reserved. Powered by Wordpress